Prearrangement - before the need arises
Many people today have strong ideas about what they would like to see included in their own funerals, based upon things they have seen, read or heard. The idea behind prearranged funerals is to put these thoughts together as a guide for survivors to follow when the need arises. We strongly suggest you discuss this subject with your family. Listen to their thoughts because you are trying to create an experience that means as much to them as it does to you. A prearranged funeral should be mutually satisfying. Pre-payment is not required for a prearranged funeral, although we can give you advice about the best method to follow if you want to pre-pay funeral expenses. When you prearrange your funeral, it's a good idea to gather all of the statistics and biographical information that will be needed at the time of death.
Ceremonies and Rituals - at the time of death
It's important to recognize that funerals are for the living - for those who will suffer the trauma of losing a loved one. It is through the funeral process that a number of emotional needs are met for those who grieve. A funeral is similar to other ceremonies in our lives. Like a graduation ceremony, a wedding, and a baptism, a funeral is a rite of passage by which we recognize an important event that distinguishes our lives. Regardless of the final disposition whether it is burial or cremation, funerals serve a purpose. At Doyle's ever deceased family member receives basic care and dressing prior to cremation. Families are required to identify the deceased and are also provided with a time of family viewing. The funeral declares that a death has occurred. It commemorates the life that has been lived and offers family and friends the opportunity to pay tribute to their loved one. The gathering of family and friends for the visitation and funeral service helps to provide emotional support so needed at this time. This will help those who grieve to face the reality of death and consequently, to take the first step toward healthy emotional adjustment. Psychologists have established that denial is a natural part of the grieving process. Until a bereaved person truly accepts the fact that a death has occurred, no progress can be made in resolving their grief. Research indicates that viewing the body of the deceased helps to fulfill the psychological needs of those who are left behind.
Afterloss - helping the grief process
If you have lost someone very dear to you through death, you are probably going through an intensely emotional - and certainly very painful - period of your life. Until we suffer a grief of our own, we know little about its requirements.
The management of grief takes place over time because grief is a process, not an event. Because the loss of your loved one is such a highly personal matter, your grief process will be a totally individual one. However there are many experiences common to those who grieve and it is for this precise reason that Afterloss was created:
1. To offer the knowledge and insight that promotes a better understanding of grief 2. To provide a valuable and helpful resource for newly grieving people and for the professionals who want to help them
3. To offer comfort and care in an easy-to-read format
4. to provide the tools needed to successfully manage the grieving periods that are so much a part of every life
Important Family Matters
With the death of a loved one, comes the realization that there are important family matters to be settled...and many business, legal and financial decisions to be made.
To assist the widowed and other persons who are called upon to help settle the estate of a deceased relative or friend, we have compiled the following information on whom to see; what organizations to contact; and where to go for help.
Following is a list of the various organizations and agencies that become applicable at the time of settling estate matters:
1. Canada Pension: If the deceased has been registered in the Canada Pension Plan, and has contributed regularly since January 1, 1968, there is a death benefit available together with survivor benefits. The death benefit equals five times the amount received from C.P.P. per month as a lump sum. The lump sum is then payable to the executor of the estate for distribution or paid directly to the survivor. The survivor benefits equal 60% of the monthly C.P.P. received, payable to the spouse or common-law spouse (With status to the person who obtains receipt of the funeral expenses. The correct Declaration can be obtained at the office of the C.P.P.) if the couple was divorced or separated at the time of death. We have necessary application forms and information regarding eligibility and documentation required to establish a claim for benefits under Canada Pension.
2. Income Security: If the deceased was under the care of the Department of Family Services there are funds available for the costs of the funeral service. We will assist with contacting the appropriate offices and representatives.
3. Last Post Fund: For qualified veterans there are funds available and at the time of arrangements we will provide all the necessary assistance.
Other organizations such as, Manitoba Public Insurance, Workers Compensation Board, Criminal Injuries Compensation, Department of National Defense and R.C.M.P. all have programs to provide assistance to qualifying individuals and the appropriate departments will be contacted at the time of need.